Stop Judging.

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” Henry David Thoreau

“To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

“I know that mirrors give us a false sense of confidence. The reflection that we see everyday has nothing to do with how others see us. The glass lies.”
― Rasmenia Massoud, Human Detritus

I will raise my hand and admit that I have passed judgement. I am not sure if I am alone with passing judgement and I don’t care. The reality is that for whatever reason, passing judgement on others may have made me feel better, given me a laugh, or bolstered my self-esteem. Sure, I have told others to ‘stop passing judgement’ on others, but my ask was a bit hypocritical as my behavior was sometimes the same. I am not coming clean with my faults but after watching the video below, I realized that at one time I may have been looking at the dressed up Cristiano Ronaldo with a bit of scrutiny. The second video is simply a fun perspective of perception!

One of my favorite people may think I have hit my head. I have not. What I have done is reconciled many things over the last seven months and tried to be that ‘better person’….not for anyone else but for me. Life in general is fast-paced, dynamic, and can sometimes be complicated or get sideways. After my brother succumbed to cancer a year ago, I realized that life is very short, so one day at a time it was just time for me to ‘step up’, ‘rise up’, or ‘unite and conquer’, or whatever appropriate motivational tag line fits.

I am not preaching. What I am doing is asking that before you make comments, stir up the rumor mill, or pass judgement, take a step back. Take a step back far enough to re-adjust your perceptions, your feelings, and your comments. Look at the video below and compare the reaction of people before and after the costume is removed. It does make you think. #CR7